7 Everyday Rituals That Mean a lot to Kids

Family and Kids

What I have noticed after my 15 years of parenting is that the big things don’t matter half as much as the tiny moments.

“What’s your favourite memory from this year?” I asked my 13-year-old.

“When we watch movies together as a family on the lounge,” came the prompt response.

Not your sleepover birthday party? Not our trip to America?

Nope. Nope. Nope. “Although I do like our bush walks we do on Sundays” she said.

The little memories are her favourites. They are the ones that mean the most.

I’ve always known this, of course. As well as investing my heart and soul (and a good deal of my sanity) into the big things, I’ve tried very hard to pay attention to the little things too. Here are my  top 7 ‘tiny moments’ that I try to share with my children regularly. The moments they remember; the moments I treasure.

7 Everyday Rituals That Mean A Lot to Kids

1. Baking. These days my kids make these all on their own, but when they were smaller, ‘helping’ me bake was the highlight of their week. I pretty-much loathed every minute of it (because of the mess), but I would never, ever let them know that. Instead, I would half-look forward to helping them explore the kitchen each week. Their happiness as they scooped, poured and stirred was fantastic.

2. Bath time. The temptation to rush the bath was always strong during witching hour… but, a bath washes away a lot more than just dirt. Taking time and encouraging them to gently swirl the water, was meditative and calming.

3. Cups of tea. I have long enjoyed my morning cuppa on the back deck, overlooking the bush and taking 5 minutes to welcome the day. Years ago, I started serving the kids their milk in a tea cup so they could join me in my ritual. They respected that this was ‘quiet time’ and before long we were taking the moment to share what we would like to accomplish in the day. A three year old with a daily goal – not a bad outcome from our little tea ritual.

4. Card games. My kids all love a game of cards, which is no surprise as they have been playing various card games all their young lives. We started with simple games like Go Fish and worked our way up to Gin Rummy and others. A quick card game while the dinner cooks is still one of my favourite moments of any day.

5. Reading aloud. The benefits of reading with kids is well-documented. It’s so good for them. What I never stopped to consider until it was almost gone, though, is how beneficial it is for parents too. Reading to your children is an enormously rewarding thing to do and, quite possibly, the only ‘quiet time’ you get together in a whole day.  When you think about it like that, the 157th re-telling of Where is the Green Sheep? mightn’t feel like such a punishment.

6. Join in their play. I have never especially liked playing kid games. But, making time to spontaneously join in my children’s play has been a way to delight them for as long as I can remember.  Perhaps this only works because they don’t expect me to be there, but it works for me!

7. Best of, Worst of. Each night at dinner we ask for each other’s ‘best of/worst of/grateful for/looking forward to’. It’s been the same thing, year after year, since the kids could first talk. It’s a unique way to find out about their day and, most importantly, teaching them to be grateful and optimistic. In their world, there is always something good to look forward to.